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12 Ways to Win a Girl’s Heart

by | Love

Published on Aug 23, 2022

So, whether you’re just starting or struggling to stay on top of your game, this post is for you. Read on and learn how to win a girl’s heart with ease and make her feel safe.

In the 21st century, love has become something of a challenge. Modern dating apps have made it much easier for shy men and women to find partners based on their interests and location. However, this has also led to a rise in virtual relationships with no real future. But this does not mean that your chances of falling in love are destroyed forever. 

If you find it hard finding potential partners or getting your crush to like you back, you just need to know what she’s looking for and how to make her feel special. In this post, I’ll explain every step and give tips on making a great first impression, developing a strong rapport, and making her feel special.   

Here are 12 ways to win a girl’s heart.

1. Be Confident

The first step towards finding love is to work on your confidence. A man who lacks confidence can be incredibly off-putting to women. 

Your first impression is usually the one that paves the way for how you will win this girl’s heart. If find you find it difficult to approach a woman and begin your conversation with her while trembling, you will leave a terrible impression. 

Adding confidence to your dating life is mostly about body language. You need to learn to walk tall with your head held high. Stand up straight and tighten your core muscles to project confidence. Keep your shoulders back and your chin up to avoid slouching. 

Don’t cross your arms in front of your chest, as this is the body language of a shy and closed-off person.   

2. Take Care of Your Looks   

The saying ‘you are addressed the way you are dressed is not just something people say for the fun of it. Women pay attention to a man’s look, so if you want to find love, you must first take care of yourself. 

You can’t expect someone to fall in love with you if your appearance is lackluster. To increase your chances of finding love, you need to look after your body and hygiene. Always strive to remain clean and well-groomed, especially if you participate in sports. 

If you’re overweight, make an effort to shed a few pounds. You don’t need to be skinny, but you should be at a healthy weight. If you wear too much makeup, you can come across as a fluke. If you have a bad haircut, consider getting it cut or styled and a shave or trim your facial hair from time to time.

Read: 15 Things Women Secretly Want

3. Be Yourself 

Finding love means being yourself; women are naturally attracted to someone genuine and down-to-earth. They want someone who is kind and caring and who isn’t afraid to show their softer side.

Before you fall in love with someone, you have to fall in love with yourself first. If you don’t cherish yourself, you will not be able to love anybody.   

Don’t try to be someone else just because you think she’ll like you more.   

The most important tip, though, is for you to always improve on yourself or else; be a better version of yourself, or you run the risk of not being liked for who you are.    

Quit trying to impress others and begin to start amazing yourself instead. 

4. Be Friends With Her Friends   

You may wonder what her friends have to do with you winning this girl’s heart but be assured that they are a key point to making your relationship work.

Warm up to her friends when she introduces them to you if it’s not too much effort. You’ll have a better chance if they think you are good for their friend. Yes, it can be overwhelming, but the result of making her friends like you is usually worth it.

We all turn to friends for advice and second opinions from time to time, and girls are no exception. You want to make a good impression with her friends because whether you know it or not, your crush will ask for advice or opinions from her friends.

5. Show Her You Care

If you want to win a girl’s heart, you need to show that you care about her. Most women want a partner who will be there for them through thick and thin, someone who will take care of them when they need it, and vice versa. 

Even though dating has become more casual, most women still want men to lend a helping hand without seeming condescending. 

If you want to win a girl’s heart, you need to show her that you care; you want to do something special, but you don’t want to go over the top and seem like you’re trying too hard.   

Here are some small gestures that will mean the world to her:   

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  • Ask to give her a ride to work 
  • Help her study or research a project    
  • Write her sweet handwritten notes   
  • Open the door for her from time to time   
  • Make a scrapbook of her favorite memories and present them to her    
  • Pull out her chair for her, whether indoors or in public   
  • Take her on special dates, like a picnic in the park or a walk on the beach   
  • Buy her flowers, even if it’s not Valentine’s Day or her birthday   
  • Always remind her how beautiful she is   
  • Tell her how much you appreciate her   

6. Take Her To Your Favorite Places

Everybody has a happy place, and yours may be the cinema or concerts. To win a girl’s heart, you should consider letting her into your life. Let her know you and enjoy your places with you. This way, you may even impress her more than you think.

Invite her out to see a favorite movie of yours, or take her to a hangout spot you like to relax at. It could even be a coffee shop or a favorite diner.    

All this is to make her feel included in your life and for her to understand you even better.   

Women like to know you favor them and that you are open to sharing everything with them. 

Read: 260 Deep Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend

7. Learn The Act Of Flirting

Maybe you saw a girl you like in public, or you met her online; you have to let your romantic interest known in a very subtle way without coming on too hard.

If you are approaching her, don’t make it seem like a movie. Don’t wait for some imaginary music or start to walk in slow motion toward her. You will only look ridiculous and will probably piss her off. Maintain eye contact when you get to her but don’t stare. 

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Be confident and make sure you smile gently because a warm smile will let her know even before you talk that you are interested in her. 

Proceed to start your conversation with a simple line like ‘hi! how are you doing?’, followed by an introduction of yourself.  

And if you are corresponding with her online, you do not want to lay your dirty pick-up lines on her the moment you start having conversations with her. 

Even if you suck at flirting, as long as you are polite and add a few witty remarks to your conversation, an interested girl will gladly pick up your cues and help you out.

Lots of girls like it when you flirt with them as long as you do it right. Flirting is a healthy way to interact with someone you fancy, but it can be off-putting if you miss the mark. There’s a really thin line between flirting and being a downright creep.

If she does turn you down, don’t take it the hard way. She may be uninterested for reasons that have nothing to do with you.   

8. Treat Her Like Your Equal   

Irrespective of your age difference, you should know she is a person of her own, and the last thing she wants is someone to reign over her.    

She has her thoughts, ambitions, and opinions. If she shares them with you, don’t instill your morals in her. Don’t insist that your ways are right every time she says something that contradicts your opinion.    

Accept your differences, be it hobbies, music, or political outlook. Remind yourself that you are not her boss or her father. Instead, think of your differences as a way to connect and learn.

If you feel you can’t accept her contrast to you, you should probably move your search along till you find a woman willing to conform to your ways and beliefs.

Read: How to Toast a Girl and Make Her Fall In Love -14 Tips

9. Make Her Feel Safe

One thing women want more than anything is to feel safe around a man; they want to know that you are trustworthy and you have their back anytime. And, of course, you want to give her that sense of security but don’t know how; these are a few clues that you can use to make her know you are no threat to her.  

Meet her somewhere in the public   

This goes beyond saying. A sure way a woman feels very safe, especially when you are not very close, is to meet her in a public place like a diner or coffee shop. 

If you are the one to pick a location for your first or second meeting, be a gentleman and suggest meeting in a public place. If she chooses the location, don’t feel offended that she doesn’t trust you enough to be alone with you. You have to earn her trust.

Compliment her harmlessly   

There are ways to compliment a woman, and she will feel like you are the best thing to ever happen to her. Be nice with your words and body language, don’t be loud, saucy, or rowdy. 

Compliment her clothes and styling attires, talk about her fragrance, and so on but don’t keep staring at her bosom or keep finding reasons to duck under the table for a peek. 

When she smiles, compliment how bright and sunny her smile is – you might even find yourself liking more things about her when you stick to the basics.

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Read: How to Woo a Woman: 3 Ways to Get Her to Say Yes

Understand boundaries

The best way to understand boundaries is to put yourself in the position of the other party you are with. If you wouldn’t like someone to encroach on your boundary without giving the green light, imagine what it would feel when you start to rub your hand up and down her thighs or when you lean in to steal kisses.

Don’t be too forward. Respect her body language even if you are the one paying the bills or driving her home.

If she feels safe with you, you won’t have to be pushy to get her to want you.

If you are reading mixed signals, you can politely ask if you can kiss her and then kiss her when she gives the go-ahead.    

10. Listen and Connect With Her 

To win a girl’s heart, you need to be a confident communicator. This means speaking up when you have something to say, putting your arm around her, and shaking hands firmly. Always be polite to everyone around you. 

To win her heart even more, you need to be able to listen to her and connect with her on a personal level.   

It’s all about paying attention to the little things and understanding what she’s saying, both verbally and non-verbally. When you’re able to do that, you create a connection that she’ll feel drawn to.

So how do you go about doing that? Here are a few tips:   

  • Listen more than you talk   
  • Pay attention to her body language   
  • Remember details about her   
  • Treat her special/Make her feel like she’s the only girl in the world.   

Read: How Do I Tell Her About My Feelings?

11. Don’t Play Games

A mistake men make is thinking that once they win a girl’s heart and she’s completely smitten with them, they start to misbehave (intentionally or unintentionally) – intentional because some men have a little psychological game they play, trying to test her loyalty, or her willpower, so they can know if she is right for them. 

They test her determination to make the relationship work by seeing other women and flirting, or they just stop putting in as much effort anymore. 

If a woman notices that you don’t have your priorities right, no matter how much she has come to care about you, she will walk out of that relationship, and it may become difficult to retrace your steps back to her.     

12. Don’t Give Up – There’s Always Hope!   

Finding love can be difficult, but it is possible. You just need to stay positive and open-minded. You don’t need to be a smooth talker or an extrovert to find a girl. All you need to do is approach women and show them that you care. 

Don’t let your insecurities get the better of you. You are enough, despite your faults. Nobody is perfect, and if a girl rejects you, she’s missing out on a great partner. 

Don’t give up if you don’t find love straight away. You may need to try a few times before you find the right person. Stay positive; it’s not easy, but with a little effort and these handy tips, you’re sure to make an impression.

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There you have it! Get out there and start wooing the girl of your dreams!     

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By Grace Obisesan

Obisesan Grace is a writer and an editor for Whatsdalatest. She has worked as a reporter and content creator for many publications. Obisesan is obsessed with creativity, and she likes to spend her free time learning how to improve her skills. She enjoys watching Sci-Fi and action movies, reading, writing poetry, and listening to continental music.

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