Everyone gets angry. But not everyone’s expression of anger is the same. Some express anger in very weird and funny ways. Others do so in very dangerous ways. Which one are you? In this article, you will find out. Do not be surprised if you find out that you are a mix of all.
1. The ones who cry
The type who cries when they are angry is often very soft and vulnerable people who do not like to contain anger, either because it is very overpowering for them or because they consider it a bad emotion.
But is anger a bad emotion? Absolutely not. It is very far from being that. It is a very healthy emotion that shows us how to respond in times of displeasure.
You just have to find ways to channel it appropriately. If crying is what works for you, then by all means, you should look for a quiet and peaceful place where you are away from the eyes of anyone who might exacerbate your feelings.
2. The type who becomes very quiet
These ones are, for some reason, scared of themselves. They are scared that opening their mouths could lead to an outburst of words that cause a lot of harm. I used to be this someone once.
It was not fun at all. Whenever someone annoyed me, or I got angry about a situation, I sat still and said nothing because it was the best thing to do at the time.
Some people who stay quiet when they get angry do it as a means to keep themselves from harming others. It is usually a very helpful mechanism. But we must understand that anger in itself cannot be suppressed into submission all the time.
One has to get to the root of the anger and address things from that place. Seeing a therapist may be a great idea.
Your therapist will mostly suggest that you do not let all that suppressed anger well up inside you. They will suggest that you find other healthy ways to express it.
This one gets angry, and everywhere becomes a loud hall, everyone suddenly unwilling to be around anymore.
The shouter is usually the one who has the most repressed anger.
This one is usually the one who just loses it one day. And quite frankly, the snap is often what they need. Anger can be such an overpowering emotion.
But its power is such that it drives a person into self-reflection.
Usually, when the one who shouts when he is angry is done shouting, they return to a world of retrospect, where they question all their actions and antagonize themselves.
The best thing to do if you are a shouter is to consider speaking calmly to yourself when next the urge to shout at someone comes along.
4. The destroyer
This one is usually very scared of him or herself. They fear anger so much that they become very passive, allowing others to step on their toes just because they don’t want to annoy anyone.
I have met a couple in my life. They were never truly happy people. And whenever they were nudged into anger, their eyes would redden, and they would go on about their business like nothing happened. But you can almost always see in their eyes that they are angry.
5. The ones that laugh
The ones who laugh when they are angry are usually so creepy that being around you alone scares you. I have met a lot of them.
They’re not so predictable. And as you might already know, some level of predictability is essential for human relationships.
People cannot read minds. They can only read your actions and responses. So, as much as it’s in your power, do not mask responses. Do not cover up anger by being jovial. It does work to keep others comfortable, but at the end of the day, you are doing it at the expense of your own happiness.
6. The ones that deny that they’re angry
These types are masters at suppressing their emotions. Most of the time, they turn out to be extremely nice guys who allow themselves to be pushed around.
Since they have found ways to criminalize normal human behavior and emotion, they criminalize their anger. They tell themselves that they are being weird or rude whenever anger comes sweeping by.
They also like to suppress their normal sexual urges. But that is something we will discuss in a separate article we have decided to title The Anatomy of Nice Guys.
7. The ones that just walk away
The ones who walk away are wise. Knowing that anger in itself can grow to become an explosive emotion, they let themselves be the perceived weak ones and go on their way.
At the end of the day, they lose nothing.
8. The ones that react after some days
These ones are usually the best of friends. They know that staying around may cause some harm. And so they slowly back away. Allowing themselves to feel all the needed emotions, conscious that when the emotions have had their turn, they will give way to logic and reason.
9. The type who forgets they were angry
These ones usually take nothing to heart. They are the ones who, most times, turn out spiritual and religious. Most of the ones I have met believe that life in itself is a fleeting moment, and all emotions come to be washed away.
Are they safe to be around? I’ll say no. At least not exactly.
10.The ones that go straight to bed
This type doesn’t have the time to deal with any negativity. Theirs is to go straight to their beds because anger isn’t that big a thing one is to give all of their attention to it.
Fun fact: they mostly sleep good!
A person’s response to anger tells you a lot about what they are made of inside.