Finding the right partner
Finding the right partner is not always an easy task. Sometimes it can be very hard and frustrating because everyone is different one way or the other. Different personalities, intelligence, traits, perspective, values and the list goes on. We are born different and raised differently in different environments by different parents.
Furthermore, both of you have faults, personality flaws; On the other hand, you have certain likes and needs which may not be the same as well. What is important is when both of you still have some interests that you share in common
You have to be ready yourself, show your preparedness for a relationship. Do you have an understanding of what relationship entails, and are you willing to adapt to someone who may be different from how you view things. These are two questions you need to ask yourself first.
If you can honestly appraise yourself, then that is a good step forward and a good sign of emotional maturity. When you think of a small child married to an adult it is unreasonable and laughable. Yet how sad to marry someone and find that inside an adult body the mind and emotions are those of a child.
What many people look for in a partner
Sexual attraction or feelings plays a major role today for so many people when finding the right person. It’s the most important thing many people today consider. Forgetting that, being with someone involves more than sex. Rather it involves real life and everyday living. That should also be a big factor when considering someone for a lifetime partner. In fact, how you get along all day is going to play a major role in your sexual compatibility
In order to find the right person, you have to be able to observe others objectively without letting your emotions cloud your thinking. So the ability to think and be matured emotionally is very vital when finding the right mate.
Another important thing you should try to recognize is if both of you want to do things for each other, to give to each other. That is very essential. Furthermore, Try not to pretend to be who you are not, be yourself, always be truthful.
Below are 10 tips to look out for when finding your partner.
1. Don’t be in a hurry
If you’re in a hurry to get into a relationship because you’re lonely and bored or because the majority of your friends are in relationships, you’re going to rush out from it at the end. Furthermore, many relationships end because they didn’t get to know each other better. Do not let your emotions drive you into running to the arms of someone who could be the wrong person. Take your time. The right person will surely come.
3. Find someone you are comfortable with
There is not better than being with someone you’re comfortable with in all aspects. Someone you can go out with, spend the whole day with, talk about anything, share secrets with and do all kinds of funny things with. Furthermore, when you are comfortable with someone, you will be happy. Also, you will never get tired of such a person.
3. Find someone who makes you laugh
When you’re with someone who can make you smile and laugh all the time, you will never get bored. You can never get tired of that person. Even memories of him or her when both of you are not together will put smiles on your face.
4. Find someone who has your best interests at heart
Someone who has your best interest at heart will always try to make you happy. Their words will always be kind to you. Even when you’ve screwed up, they will always be gentle and tender with you. They try to see things from your own perspective, and try to understand the way you think. Watch out for this quality when finding the right partner
5. Find someone you can easily share your thoughts with
Sharing your thoughts or feelings with your partner has several positive outcomes. It helps to relieve tension caused by stress, as well as the trauma of major life problems. Furthermore, hiding your feelings makes you become angry and worried. This may put you at an increased risk of heart disease. So it is very important to find someone you could share your thoughts and emotions with.
6. Find someone who listens or pay attention to you
If your partner doesn’t listen or pay attention to you, then he is not the right person. Paying attention involves more than just listening to you when you speak. It includes reading your mood. He or she knows when you are sad and angry. They know when to give you space or interrupt you. Also, whenever you want to express your deepest thoughts and problem, you can easily pour it out to him or her. And he/she will listen to you and help you find a solution.
7. Avoid someone who always wants his/her own way
People who always want everything to be done their way are usually very dominant and manipulative. That is not the kind of person you would like to be with. Furthermore, such persons like to impose their views on others. Beware of such people when finding the right partner.
8. Avoid someone who is easily discouraged and quits
No relationship is perfect. All have their ups and downs. So find someone who is not easily discouraged. Someone who, instead of running away when there’s little problem, will stand to settle it and bring back peace. Running away or abandoning a problem will not solve the problem. Finding the right person who can be with you in both the hard and good times is better.
9. Avoid someone who strives to be the center of attention
Such people are always looking for ways to feed their egos and low self-esteem. In order to do that, they like to be the center of attention. They don’t care about others, or what others think. Furthermore, they can never do things as a team with you. You will be bored with life, if you’re with them.
10. Your basis for liking someone shouldn’t be sheer sexual attraction
Everyone gets old with time, Beauty fades with time but a good heart is always treasured forever. Look beyond the physical appearance when finding the right partner. Someone you would like to live the rest of your life with. Remember, beauty attracts the eye, but personality captures the heart.
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