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5 Things Men Secretly Want

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Published on Jun 18, 2022

With many women, it is almost impossible to really understand men and what men want. This is because, essentially, men and women are wired differently. The masculine and the feminine are on different ends of the line, though strongly attracted to each other. In this article, I will be helping women understand the five key things men secretly want.

1. Men Want to Be able to Be Themselves

This is number one for a reason. Because if you get this wrong, you are going to push the man straight out of your life and into another woman’s arms. 

Yes, you love him. But this love means nothing if he can’t be himself around you. In a relationship, no man wants to feel caged. 

Men want to do what they want without being afraid that their women are going to counter their decisions. A guy doesn’t want to stop hanging out with the boys because of you, nor stop hitting the gym because you are uncomfortable. 

They want to be themselves. Many men may not tell you openly about this, but it is one of the things they secretly want.

Related: Things to Talk to a Guy About

2. Men Want to be Vulnerable

Many men out there secretly want to be vulnerable. 

When many women think about men, they see a species who are strong and independent, able to handle their issues without involving anyone. In a way, this is true. Still, it is not. Men also want to be vulnerable. 

Men want to be able to talk about their issues without being judged for them. They want to look on to their woman for some kind of safety. Sometimes, a lot of times, men protect their women, especially in the face of physical danger. 

But once in a while, like in the game of chess, the queen protects the king. This is especially true regarding emotional difficulties, as women are more emotionally in tune with themselves than men. 

Read: 10 Types of Guys Every Girl Should Date

3. Men Want Your Opinions

If he wanted to be his own man, doing what he sees fit whenever he sees fit, he would not have entered into a relationship just yet. 

To men, the relationship package comes with the gift of companionship. He wants you to be his companion. He wants to be able to hear your opinions. Advise him. That is one of the best things to do with your man; their love and affection for you will increase when you do this thing that men secretly want.

Read: Things Women Do That Men Love

4. They Want a Woman Who Can Depend on Them

Men take pride in being dependable. A man is something like a rock. He feels great about himself when one leans on him, especially someone he loves and appreciates deeply: his spouse. 

When you depend on your man, you are telling him that you consider him an honest man and would not mind giving him your trust completely. 

That is one of the most effective compliments in a man’s world. He will love you and try as much as possible not to break your trust

Related: 10 Things Women Do That Turn Men On

5. Men Want to Be Pampered

Yes, men are big babies sometimes. So, he wants that you pamper him. He wants to come home to some head rubs and some cuddles. Be affectionate to him. Initiate body contact, and perhaps, sex, as often as you can.   

To be pampered by a woman is something most men secretly long for and want their women to do.

Photo by Taylor on Unsplash

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By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works of short fiction have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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