‘Is he serious about our relationship? Is my man committed? Is he willing to take the next step with me? Does he see a future with me?’ These are questions that may be bordering you, but you’re not alone.
Let’s face the facts. Many women who have been in a relationship or are currently in a relationship have probably asked similar questions like the ones above. It is often difficult to assess certain behaviors or reactions of your partner.
For instance, you fall madly in love with a guy, only for him to not feel the same way about you. It’s a devastating feeling, and no lady wants to go through this. Ever!
Conversely, knowing that the guy you love also feels the same and is serious about the relationship is one of the world’s most amazing feelings.
Luckily, there are some visible signs a guy will show when he is serious about you. These are the usual telltale signs men show when they are interested in having a committed relationship with a woman they like.
Signs Your Man Is Really Committed
1. He is Transparent
When a man wants to be in a relationship with you, he is usually honest about everything. He does not hide things from you. He talks freely about how much you mean to him, about his plans with you, and so on.
If he does not speak openly to you; and always has his guard up around you, that’s a bad sign.
The chances are that he may not feel the same way you do about the relationship. It could also mean that he does not see a future with you, so he does not see the need to open up to you.
2. He Goes Deep
You can sit for hours on end talking about silly memories. From childhood memories, goals, likes; basically just opening up to each other on a deeper level. If a man is genuinely interested in these little things and remembers them, he is serious about you.
It is a good sign that shows just how much you mean to him and how he honestly loves to find out more about the woman he wants to be with in a relationship.
3. Your man Wants To Be Exclusive
Ladies, you know that he is serious about you when he tells you he wants you both to be exclusive as a couple. He makes sure to let you know that you are the only woman in his life. Also, he tries to ensure that no other man gets your attention or attempts to snatch you away from him.
If he doesn’t put a label on your relationship and leaves room for interpretation, he is not serious about you. Imagine not knowing if there is someone else or if you’re even a couple.
4. He Keeps To His Promises
A man who is serious about you would keep to his word on anything that concerns you. He would not break a promise or cancel a special date on flimsy excuses. Even if he breaks his promise to you, he would feel bad and try to make it up to you no matter what.
But, when he breaks his promises all the time and doesn’t even attempt to make up for it, he doesn’t care about your feelings, and you should reevaluate your relationship with him. A man who is serious about you would try his best not to disappoint you all the time.
5. Your Man Takes Your Opinions Into Consideration
He genuinely wants your opinion on matters concerning his work or personal stuff. He respects your point of view and honestly wants to know your take on things. He values how you think and feel.
If he doesn’t respect your opinions, makes random gestures (like rolling his eyes when you’re talking to him), he does not take you seriously. And probably doesn’t take your relationship seriously as well.
6. He Loves Spending Time With You
Whether it’s binge-watching movies on a lazy day or face timing each other during lunch breaks at work. A man who loves you and is serious about you wants to spend as much time as he can with you. He does not feel his day is complete without you in it because he just can’t get enough of you.
7. Comfortable Relationship
Being together is effortless. It’s so easy to be around a man who is serious about you. You do not have to watch how you act or what you say around him. You both can be as goofy as you want around each other.
Even if he may not be as goofy as you are, he still enjoys your playful nature. You may not even be all of that but, the point is, you do not subconsciously try to act around him because of how comfortable you are with him.
8. You Have Met His Friends And Family
You will know how serious he is about you when you’ve not only spent time with him alone, but you’ve also met his friends and family. When a man is serious about you, he wants you to know his close circle and get along with them. If you have met no one close to the man you’re dating, take a step back, and think.
Maybe he does not want you to meet them because he is not serious about your relationship. That or he has ill-intentions towards you.
9. He Wants To Share His Favourite Things With You
Trust me when I say this, a guy who likes a girl would want to share all his favorite things with her. It could be books, movies, games, activities, or even hobbies. If a man is serious about you, he would want to share things he’s passionate about with you. You may not like them as much as he does, but he would still want to share those things he is passionate about with you.
10. Your Man Shares His Future With You
When he talks about plans and includes you in all of them, you’ll know that he is serious about the relationship. You could also hear him talk about all the future things you could do together and see him working towards them. Things like; moving in and living together and even plans to settle down with you.
11. He Respects Your Boundaries
Your man does not force or pressure you into doing anything. He respects the pace you set in the relationship. If you are not ready to be intimate in the relationship, he respects your decision. If you don’t feel like moving in with him, he would also regard your decision.
12. He Shows You Through His Actions
As the saying goes, “actions speak louder than words”. A man who takes you seriously would show it through his actions. He would want to be exclusive with you if he is committed to the relationship. That means he would cut ties with his exes, side chicks, booty calls, and all those other flings he used to have and focus on you because he wants you to become the dominant woman in his life.
13. Your Man Wants Your People To Like Him
He might be nervous at first when meeting your family and friends because he wants them to like him. He knows he wants a serious relationship with you, so he wants to get along with the people in your life.
Your man will try to impress and have a good relationship with them to be comfortable enough to ask more about you as the relationship progresses. Or probably for help, in case he wants to throw a surprise party for you, eh? Being close to your friends and family could also come in handy when picking out gifts for you.