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How to Tell a Guy Has a Boner

by | Love

Jan 13, 2023

Guys are great at hiding their boners. But I can assure you, if you pay just a little more attention, you will be able to tell for sure when a guy has a boner. And this includes even in public. A guy with an erection often acts weirdly, uncomfortably, stares at you lustfully, or even has his hands inside his pockets. In this article, we share how to tell a guy around you has a boner.

1. He is, Weirdly, Isolated from Everyone

Guys, at least a lot of them, feel embarrassed by boners. Of course, boners are embarrassing. They make a person feel like some pervert on the prowl. For this reason, guys who have boners like to isolate themselves. 

The guy in a bar who has an erection in his pants will be on his own, away from everyone else. He will also feel very uncomfortable. And you will likely be able to tell from his facial expressions that he is very uncomfortable. 

2. He Seems Very Uncomfortable

This is one of the major hallmarks that a guy has a boner. Guys with boners are so very uncomfortable, and it shows even in their facial expressions. 

You can tell a guy is uncomfortable if:

He Has His Eyes Everywhere

This is him trying to tell for sure that he is not being watched. For some reason, guys who have boners, especially in public, feel like someone is watching them and is going to come to tell them to get up and leave. It is a struggle, and it shows. 

Read: How to Make Out: 10 Secrets to Having the Best Make Out Sessions

His Face is Red and Flushed

This is especially true in people who are light-skinned. When we are shy or anxious, blood vessels in our faces will dilate. The dilation in these vessels causes blood to be delivered to them—more blood. 

The large volume of blood under the facial skin is what makes it look red when we are blushing or embarrassed. This sign is common among guys who has an erection in their pant, especially when it happens in the wrong place.

3. He Stops Participating in The Conversation

I am telling you, no conversation is as important as hiding a boner. You can’t beat it. No matter what you are saying or were previously saying, he will not be interested in keeping up the conversation as long as he has a boner. 

At best, you will get very disinterested “hmmms” or “Oh, that is right!” 

All the while, he will be focused on something you cannot place a finger on. Ask him what is wrong, and he will most likely say: “Oh, it is nothing to worry about.” 

4. He Does Not Look at Your Face

A guy who has a boner will not look at your face, I can assure you. If for some reason, he manages to, it will be a very sharp look. He will take his eyes away as soon as your eyes meet his. 

Some guys who are great at cover-ups may smile at you and make it look like they aren’t hiding anything. But eyes don’t lie. If you look at those eyes well enough, you will be able to tell for sure that they are hiding something. 

But don’t ask. Seriously, don’t. (Read: 10 Squirting Orgasm Secrets to Make Yourself Squirt)

5. He Stares at You Lustfully

Let’s get to the reason why he has a boner in the first place. Of course, he is horny. Maybe even “really” horny. Which means there is some stimulation around him. 

Remember that guys are aroused by either mental or physical stimulation. My best bet is that he is mentally stimulated from just looking at something—you. 

A guy who has a boner will often focus on the one person or thing that attracts him, at least for that little period of time. 

You will often see him having subtle perks at your cleavage or your butt. If he finds that you are catching on, he will just laugh and maybe apologize. Depending on what your response is. If you respond nicely, he may try to initiate some physical intimacy. 

6. He Becomes Touchy

Being horny is your body’s way of saying: here, there, can you please go out there and get some sex so I can chill? That is just what the boner is doing to your guy friend. It is telling him to have sex. But he cannot just get off his feet and have sex with anyone. So he will settle with just having what looks like sex. Touch. 

He will touch you more. Around your arms and may even your neck.

Read: 11 Demisexual Signs and How to Connect With One

7. The Conversation Becomes Weirdly Sexual

Some guys are so respectful of themselves and the women around them that they will never attempt to touch a woman when she has not given consent. 

These types of guys resort to something else: sexual discussions. 

These sexual discussions are meant to make the woman horny. It is their way of saying: “Okay, I am horny, and I think I just have to make you horny as well.”

Does this work? Sometimes. Other times, it is met by this harsh resistance. 

8. He Will Not Stand Up

If you want to be 100 percent sure that the guy has a boner, go the traditional way. Ask him to stand up. Let’s say you are at a bar, and you suspect he has an erection.

To be sure, certainly sure he has one, you can say: “Hey, can we go outside for a minute and take some pictures?”

If he does have a boner, you will be met with very firm opposition. He will say no. Of course not. He will do anything to make sure he doesn’t stand up. And even though you move around and try to pull him up, he still won’t stand. 

9. He Has His Hands in His Pocket

Most guys who have a boner will push their hands in their pockets and attempt to press the boner down. 

Observe him. 

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Does he have hands there? He likely has an erection. 

Jokingly ask him to take the hand out. Are you met by resistance? 

There. You have your answer. (Read: 10 Types of Women Every Guy Can’t Resist)

10. You see the Bulge

This is the most obvious sign he has an erection in his pants. Sometimes, the boner is hard, and you can see the bulge. 

A boner!

Summary

If you pay attention, you will see just about any boner. 

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By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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