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How to Stop Being Horny

by | Sensual Intimacy

Sep 14, 2023

Everyone deals with their natural urge to have sex from time to time. This is because it is natural and, many times, beyond your control. However, there are those whose horny feelings have put them in some uncomfortable situations, and now, they seek ways to stop being horny. If this is you, then you may want to try out these tricks that promise to help you deal with horniness: 

1. Be Around People More

It is likely you are that horny because you spend a lot of your time alone. While it is a good thing to be alone from time to time, it is not very helpful when you are dealing with your sexual urges. 

This is because being alone means being in your own head. And being in your own head means being in a position where you are almost always horny. 

There is little chance you will have a hard-on or sexual urge when you are with your friends, knowing that they are capable of teasing you and making you feel very weird. 

You will rather try to keep your thoughts in check so you don’t feel so out of place. When next you feel so horny, ask to hang out with some of your friends. 

2. Deal with Anxiety

Anxiety is one of the many reasons people have hypersexual urges. It is not difficult to guess why. Since the body interprets anxiety as pain, it seeks ways to buffer this pain. One of these ways is to turn to sex. 

Have you ever noticed that you feel much better after you have sex? It is not a coincidence. Sex makes the body release a number of hormones that can sure make you feel better. One of these is dopamine and oxytocin, the love hormone. 

See a counselor and discuss ways to deal with your anxiety. 

Read: Why am I so Horny | What Could be Behind the Experience of Persistent Sexual Arousal

3. Exercise More

Exercise can count for many things. Depending on how you look at it, exercise can be a fitness activity. It can also be a hobby, as well as a means to cope with anxiety. 

If you are always horny as a result of being anxious, exercising often has to be one of your best bets. Trust me on this one.

You don’t have to hit the gym or anything. You just have to be willing to apply some consistency. 

This is going to build your esteem and help you deal with how horny you feel from time to time. 

It works. It does work.

4. Get Out of Your Head

Someone once told me that creative people are almost always horny because they live in a world within their heads. It sounded funny to me at first, but now that I think of it, it is probably true. 

Think about human sexuality for a second. Do you realize it all starts in the head? You would not feel horny if you did not think to have sex. I believe this to be very interesting. 

This means if you can put some kind of leash on your mind and have it think what you want it to think, you will feel a lot less horny. 

Get out of your head for a minute. How? I will tell you. 

Read: Is It Healthy For Couples to Watch Porn?

5. Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is an age-long practice that has helped people deal with anxiety and many other forms of impulsive thinking. 

I used to have doubts about it until I tried it myself, and to my surprise, it worked. 

Mindfulness involves paying attention to what is happening now. And by now, I mean things you can see and touch and feel. 

Pay attention to those things. Say you get into a room, for example, rather than fume with anxiety, it is best if you pay attention to and appreciate everything you see. 

Try to look at the colors around you, the dresses that look beautiful, etc. This is going to distract the part of you that wants to stay horny, as there is no more room to think about being horny.

6. See Less Porn

We cannot deny the role porn plays in making people horny. 

There is such a big chance you feel very horny because you consume an unhealthy amount of porn. It will help to tone it down a bit and see lesser porn than ever. 

You may need some help if your excessive porn consumption has become much of an issue. That is to say if it has become an addiction. 

Addictions take some time and dedication to break away from. I am, however, rooting for you. You will definitely be able to do this.

Read: 10 Simple Ways to Overcome Dating Anxiety

7. Read Less Erotic Books

You should limit the number of erotic books you read when you don’t want to be horny. While men mostly have an issue with pornography, I tend to see a lot of women come down with issues from reading erotic books. 

I am not saying you should totally do away with any erotic books you have. I am saying, rather, that you must limit the extent to which you consume these materials.

It does work. It does.

8. Install Porn Blockers

This is going to be especially useful to you if you are addicted to porn. There is no need to blame yourself or anything. Just install a porn blocker to stop sites from redirecting you to pornographic content. 

You may also need to stay off your social media for a while, especially if you follow nude models. 

Looking at nude pictures on Instagram is a form of consuming softcore porn. 

Read: 10 Signs You’re Addicted to Porn

9. Quit Masturbating

Masturbation is easy gratification, and most activities that make you feel gratified easily will end up becoming addictions. I have seen this happen a lot of times. 

Don’t masturbate if you want to stop being horny. Don’t. 

10. Enjoy Your Sex Life and be Patient with Yourself

That you are dealing with being horny often does not mean you should not have sex. 

Do have sex, and try as much as you can to enjoy your sex life. 

Be patient with yourself as you defeat feeling impulsively horny. 

It all starts in the mind and will be overcome in the mind.

By Martin Corden

Martin Corden is a certified relationship expert and a songwriter from Australia. He loves researching and writing. Martin loves finding new ways to improve and inspires others to be their best version and work together towards it. Martin has a wide range of intellectual and artistic interests.

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