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How to Start Dating Again at 50 Without Feeling Overwhelmed

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Love can come to us at any age, even at 50 years of age. And love is a beautiful thing, which you don’t have to feel overwhelmed by. This is how you embrace love and start dating again at 50 without feeling overwhelmed.

1. Open Up Your Mind

To start dating at fifty, you have to open your mind to it. Realize that there are no rules to these things: no one can say you are undeserving of love because you are fifty years old. And that includes even you. 

Stop saying that you are too old for this. Stop thinking about it, even. Embrace the reality that you can find love again. You should find love again. Dating in later life has many benefits, such as a close intimate relationship without the constraints, and can also be a stepping stone to marriage.

2. Pay Attention to Your Body

I am telling you, fifty is not an age you want to neglect your body. At this age, your body starts to go through changes that need to be managed properly. 

For example, women start to produce less and less estrogen. Meaning that their bones may start to get softer, and they may start to gain weight. 

The weight gain happens as a result of a reduction in the consumption of calories. 

For men, muscle mass starts to deplete, etc.

Pay attention to your body. Eat healthily. Incorporate healthy proteins into your meals, and exercise as often as possible. 

Read: How to Start Over Again at 50

3. Heal from Past Hurts

If you plan to date at fifty, then you have to be ready to let go of past hurts. You see, it is difficult to keep a healthy relationship if you are still carrying baggage from your past. 

Heal from all your previous betrayals, especially betrayals that came from a previous lover. 

Let go of the mentality that everyone is messy. Not everyone is messy, and definitely, not anyone wants to hurt you. 

Embrace forgiveness even when they don’t come back to apologize to you. According to studies, people who let go of the past have the advantage of enjoying longer and more satisfying romantic relationships. Forgiveness also plays a role in reducing negative emotions.

4. Go Out There and Meet New People

To date, you have to go out. You have to be ready to go out. Be anywhere but your home. Be at places you find interesting

If you are a lover of books, then a bookshop is ideal. Chances are, you’ll find another book lover there, and you both will start kicking it at once. 

If you are a music lover, then be at music festivals and fairs. 

And be open to people. Be warm and welcoming. Wear bright smiles, and be open to starting and keeping conversations. 

Read: How to Impress a Man After 50 on the First Date

5. A Dating App Is It Sometimes

Especially when going out is a problem for some reason, or the other, dating apps are a good idea. 

Apps like Tinder let you see the age of whoever you think looks good and also give you a sneak peek into what their personality is like. 

Connect with people who share common interests with you. Keep an open mind as you do this. This is a social media age, and you have just got to try to keep up. 

If you don’t love dating apps, then use normal social media to connect with people you find attractive. WhatsApp. Facebook. 

6. See the Good in People 

I mentioned earlier that you have to heal from past hurts as you plan to start dating again at 50. One of the most glaring indications that you have healed from your past hurts is seen when you start seeing the good in people. 

People still attached to their hurtful experiences feel paranoid and usually believe that people are out to hurt them. But those who have healed no longer feel this way. They open themselves to love and be loved. 

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To effortlessly start dating again at 50 without feeling overwhelm, open yourself up to love and be loved. Start to see the good in people. 

7. You are Not Immune to Rejection—Don’t Take It So Personal

Even at fifty, you still wouldn’t get everything you want. Some things will elude you, and it is fine. You are not meant to get everything. 

Keeping this in mind, be prepared for rejection whilst hoping for the best. Even though you feel intensely attracted to them, realize that they have a right to either accept or reject you. 

They can say No, and it is fine. Don’t take it personally. Don’t build your sense of self-worth on whether or not a person accepts you. 

8. Set Up a Date

When you have been speaking to someone you find attractive for a while, then it is time to set up a date. A date would be a necessity if you met them on social media.

Show up for the date dressed perfectly. 

Your look is your charm. 

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Wear perfect perfume. Wear a smile. 

During the date, try as much as you can to be yourself. 

Step up your flirting game. You may be fifty, but flirting still works. 

Be cool, charming, and confident. 

9. Communicate Better

Dating at fifty means, you have to learn to communicate better

Relationships are built on communication, and ones that fail at this will essentially fail. 

Listen more. Let your partner finish their line of thoughts before you step in. 

Learn to express your feelings without raising your voice or starting arguments. Learn conflict resolution; keep things from escalating. Don’t make things all about yourself.

Learn other forms of communication. Learn your partner’s love language. Give them gifts if that’s what they love. Perform acts of service if that makes them happy.

As you start dating at 50, learn to prioritize other people’s happiness, just as you prioritize yours. 

10. Sex

Sex is an important part of most romantic relationships. If you are dating again at 50, you have to open up your mind to the idea of having sex. 

Don’t feel weird about it. Let it happen if the mood is right, and be sure to allow yourself to enjoy it. Be sensual. Love it. Be into it.

Bonus: forgive. Yes. Work on your forgiving game. Also, work on your apology game. Realize that just as people hurt you, you hurt them. You aren’t perfect, and that’s fine. Accept it. 

Have fun. 

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By Aleksandra Nico

Dr. Aleksandra Nico is a licensed clinical psychologist. She is in private practice in Brunswick and has experience in a wide variety of areas, including mood-related difficulties, anxiety, psychosis, trauma, addictions, personality disorders, and anger management. Dr. Nico completed a Ph.D. at the University of Nevada. Her goal is not to make very good people out of good, but to get the unique out of them.

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