Has anyone told you that you are annoying and hard to be around? That may be about the most hurtful things one can be told. Being annoying can lead to negative consequences, such as people avoiding you, losing friends, damaging relationships, and even affecting your personal and professional life. It can also create a negative image of yourself in others’ minds, harming your reputation.
To not be annoying, you need to be mindful of your behavior and considerate of others. This means being aware of how your words and actions affect those around you, respecting their boundaries and opinions, and making an effort to communicate effectively and positively. It also means being willing to listen and learn from feedback and making changes to your behavior when necessary.
In this article, we show you just how you can become more fun to be around and a lot less annoying.
1. Be Grateful
I like to tell everyone who listens to me speak that gratefulness is a magic wand. You will be surprised at how much changes in your life the minute you become more grateful for everything you have.
It doesn’t have to be the big things. It can be the little ones. You can be grateful for your friends, for the fact that you go to school, or that you have a house to stay in.
Direct your gratefulness towards anything you hold dear or believe in.
This will happen naturally when you begin to show gratitude for the little things. You will notice that your personality will change remarkably from that of a grumpy person to someone who finds joy in the little things.
You will begin to smile more.
Smiling can make you a lot less annoying and approachable. People want to be around people who smile and make jokes. Jokes make life easier.
3. Develop Your Sense of Humor
Most of the annoying people I know do not have a sense of humor. They are too literal to be around. Even the slightest sarcasm offends them.
These people are what I describe as borderline grumpy. You do not know what to say around them, as the littlest mistake can have them really upset. Do not be that person.
Understand that humor is a tool for communication. People spin humor in a bid to make themselves and their friends feel better.
There is an argument that a sense of humor cannot be learned. I do not know how true this is. But I am pretty sure we can train ourselves not to be offended by the littlest things.
We can find something to laugh about on the harshest, coldest days. We can become happier and more willing to love the world.
4. Do not Transfer Aggression to Anyone
Of all the annoying people I know, more than 70 percent are stressed out. That is to say, they work more than one job at a time and maybe home for only a few hours every day.
This stress makes them transfer aggression to the people around them even when they may not want to.
If you want to be less annoying, I suggest you find better ways to deal with your bad days. Do not take out any of your aggression on anyone. Be able to deal with your own stress without lashing out at anyone, especially people you consider family and friends.
5. Deal With Stress
There is no other way to make sure you do not transfer aggression to anyone than dealing with stress.
The world is swarming with stressful situations. For students, there is the school. For those working, there is work where we sometimes have to work with a very annoying boss.
Don’t let this get to you. Refuse to be stressed about anything at all. Drink water to stay hydrated. Take a break when you begin to feel uneasy. Be sure to have at least 8 hours of sleep every day.
Don’t stay up on the phone late into the night. Find ways to enjoy your own life bereft of stress, and you will automatically become less annoying.
6. Don’t Hold Back Compliments
The most annoying people in the world are more open to criticizing others than complimenting them. Sometimes—It is even most times—they will rather find something wrong about a person than something right.
Don’t be like this. As much as you can, give compliments to people. Let these compliments come right out of your heart.
Tell them that you think their dress is beautiful. Say you love the way they smile. Suggest that they smile more. Sometimes, lean in for a hug and say that they look really good.
Compliments do not only make someone else feel better; they make us feel better about ourselves as well.
When you find things to love about other people, you will also find things to love about yourself.
7. Don’t Insist on Always Having Your Way
This is one of the best pieces of advice I can offer you. It will help you in life and cause you to find good in every relationship you get into.
Understand that you are an individual and have a right to your individuality: you can do what you want and withhold what you want to withhold.
Also, understand that other people are individuals as well. They have a right to do what they want and will sometimes say no to you.
When you are told no, do not insist on having your way. Accept that you cannot have everything you want, and move on.
8. Do Not Talk Too Much
People who talk a lot are very annoying. Sure, they can be fun for the first couple of hours after you meet them. But they keep talking and talking and soon drain the fun out of the room. Do not be this person.
Do not talk much, especially about other people. Keep to yourself what must be kept: doing this will not destroy your relationships. Instead, it would strengthen them.
9. Don’t Try to Be Someone Else
When people discover that they are annoying, they usually want to take the easy route and pretend to be someone else. Don’t do this.
Rather than become someone else, allow yourself room to improve. You will love yourself more if you improve on your excesses rather than try to be someone you are not.
10. Give Yourself Time
Nothing changes overnight. So, give yourself time. Become less critical of yourself, and understand that you are evolving. You are.
You can become a lot less annoying by putting in some work on your personality.