There are times when it stops being just sex. When it becomes making love, getting into the moment, and enjoying the trueness of vulnerability. If you have ever reached this point of lovemaking, you can tell that orgasms become easier to achieve, and bonding happens pretty fast. In this article, we hope to help you change your bedroom routine: this is how to make love:
1. Love Them
You will find it hard to make love to anyone if you do not love them at least. Lovemaking is not possible if there is no emotion, especially if you are demisexual. A surprising number of women turn out to be demisexual.
It is possible that you are.
Check out a couple of our articles about demi-sexuality to know more about the subject.
- What is Demisexuality and How Does it Differ From Other Forms of Sexuality
- 11 Demisexual Signs and How to Connect With One
2. Get Rid of Mental Barriers
Most of the barriers against sex only exist in our heads. If we feel some kind of way about sex, there is a big chance that our bodies will adapt to these feelings and attempt to simulate them.
Sometimes, it is even so bad one is unable to reach that point of heightened physical stimulation.
If you want to make love, get rid of every mental barrier, and come to see sex as something that is to be enjoyed.
3. Get in The Mood
As much as a lot of people often argue against it, there are proper moods for making love.
When you are in any of these moods, it is easier to surrender your body, to merge yourself with someone else, to explore.
There are a number of ways to get in the mood. Some of the most common include: watching movies. We have an article up about some movies that can put you in the mood. You should check these movies out.
Songs are also a great way to get into the mood. Listen to sensual songs with your partner.
Read: 10 Movies to Get You in The Mood
4. Take Kisses Seriously
For real, do not rush kisses. When asked what they considered most sensual in bed, most of the women who responded to us agreed that kissing topped the list.
Pearl told us: “Nothing beats kissing. It is, for me, the most sensual thing I can do with anyone. Moments shared kissing is the best in bed.”
We even asked men, and whilst some of them mentioned some other activity as being the most sensual, many more agreed that kissing was the closest to heart.
Hanruel also said: It is hard to choose, but I will choose “kissing.” That, for me, is one of the most sensual things ever.
Check out the following articles about kissing your man.
- 10 Signs He Loves You by His Kiss
- What Does It Mean When He Kisses You A Lot
- 10 Kissing Styles and What They Say About Him
- 10 Signs That He Enjoyed the Kiss
- 10 Signs the Kiss Meant Something to Him
5. Do Not Rush
Lovemaking is not something that can be rushed. For you to truly enjoy every second, you will have to take your time. This means letting things go on for as long as they should.
This may sound cliché, but I am going to say: follow your heart. Or better put, follow your body and your heart.
Let yourself embrace every feeling of pleasure for as long as. You don’t have to think the sex is taking too long. If it wants to go on as long as an hour or two, let it. Do not rush.
6. Take Away Physical Barriers
I mentioned earlier that there are a number of mental barriers against sex. Of course, there are also a number of physical barriers too.
For example, if you are not wet enough, the pain from the friction is going to antagonize that sex. If there is a strong smell, let’s say smoke, you may also react to it and end up not having the kind of lovemaking you crave.
If you have problems with getting wet, I suggest you use lube. We have an article up on the best kinds of lube you should consider using. There is quite a number, and they can surely help you have better sex.
Read: 11 Best Oils to Use as Lube & Alternatives to Avoid
7. Express What You Feel
When you make love, I can bet you will feel a whole lot of emotions and feelings. You should not bottle these feelings. This is going to make the sex feel forced, for both you and your partner.
Instead, you should find healthy ways to express what you feel. Your expression is also a means to communicate with your partner; to tell them: “Hey, you are doing this just right,” or to say, “I don’t think you are doing it so well.”
In all, it is going to make the sex much better.
Some great ways to express yourself during lovemaking are: moaning your partner’s name, grabbing him tighter, or maybe even holding him in a hug. It is a good thing to hug your partner when you have sex.
Read: How to Cuddle | 15 Tips for Cuddling
8. Pay Attention To Him Too
As much as you should enjoy yourself when you get down with your partner, you should also ensure that your partner enjoys himself as well.
Making love is like falling in love. I don’t even like to use the term: “Falling in love.” Because falling makes it seem like something you do on your own—The better way to think about love is by walking into love.
Holding each other and walking into this place of bliss.
Making love should be the same thing. You both have to hold each other’s hands and walk. Don’t leave your partner behind.
Read: How to Please a Man in Bed
9. Get in Your Head
If there is any time to create fantasies in your head of you and your partner, it is now.
It may also help you reach orgasm faster. We know this because we reached out to a couple of women who had tried fantasizing about their partners during sex. Most of them said it helped them reach orgasm and made the loving more intense.
10. Lock Fingers
Yes, lock your fingers with your partner’s. It can make the “loving” sweeter, better.
Also, stare into their eyes. It is said that the eye is the window of your body. Let love leap into this window.
Making love with your partner is one of the most magical things ever.
