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How to Have Sex with a Friend

by | Sensual Intimacy

Sep 19, 2023

You have likely heard that getting out of the friend zone and getting laid is one of the hardest things ever. In many ways, this is true. But that is only when you imagine the friend zone to be the opposite of a sexual attraction. It is not. The friend zone is rather the opposite of a romantic interest. While women or men wouldn’t want to be in relationships with their guys or girlfriends, they may be willing to have sex with these friends. Here is how to have sex with your friend.

1. Don’t be Too Nice

You may think that niceness is going to make her want to bed you. But I tell you what: when it comes to matters that bother around sexuality and sexual attraction, you are most likely better off choosing the counterintuitive option.

Don’t do what you think works. So far, what you think works has landed you in the friend zone, so why don’t you try something new?

Try being less nice. Only give them stuff they earn. Only be there for them when they show you that they value your time and help.

2. Stop Proving Yourself to Them: Flip the Coin

One reason a lot of men and women friend zone their admirers is this: they believe the admirers will always be there. 

It becomes a comfortable place, as they know that whatever happens, the friend will stay. They could tell him to walk them six miles, and he will do it just because he wants to get some sex. 

Flip the coin. And do it fast. Show them that you do not intend to be that guy who is always taken advantage of. 

No matter how you look at it, in a friend-admirer relationship, the one who is the admirer is always going to be taken advantage of.  

This is because the one doing the friend-zoning assumes a position of power, driven by the belief that they have nothing to lose. 

Take them off their high horse by showing them that they do have something to lose—that you can be less willing to be there for them. The results are going to surprise you. 

They will begin to see you in a more sexual light and will eventually have sex with you so that you stay. That is how to have sex with a friend. 

Read: 10 Things That Turn Women On

3. Don’t Talk About Their Admirers

You know you are very deep in a friendzone when all they do is talk about someone they admire and that someone they want to sleep with. 

It can be very hurtful having to listen to these things. This is why I want you to stop listening altogether. 

Don’t hurt yourself. The one who is willing to stand up for themselves is going to be considered more sexually attractive. 

Don’t believe me? Try it for a week. When next they bring up an admire they love, tell them you don’t want to talk about admirers because you are not in the mood for that. 

4. Invest Less

As I have already inferred, the one who has nothing to lose is going to be in a position of power in the relationship. 

The one who has so much to lose is going to be something of a pawn, being told no all the time. 

Except you don’t have problems with remaining that guy, it is best if you withdraw the amount of time and energy you invest into the friendship. 

Don’t text them too much. Don’t call all the time. You may begin ghosting. 

If you’re dealing with a woman, ghosting works. It is common knowledge that women like to be the center of attraction. Remove her from this center, and she will do anything to get back there, even have sex with you. 

You can have sex with a friend by caring less. 

Read: 5 Signs She Likes You But Only as a Friend

5. Break the Touch Barrier

I have seen over the years that many guys are not even in the friend zone in the first place. Sounds funny, does it not? Well, it is the truth. 

They are in a friend zone they have made up in their minds. 

This made-up zone has been built with bricks of timidity. If you want to have sex with a friend, break these bricks. Stop being timid. Go out there and break the touch barrier. 

I am not suggesting that you pop out of nowhere and place a hand on their thighs or something like that. Do it little by little, very subtly, until there is no barrier left.

Give them random hugs. Try to arrange their hair or their clothes. Place a hand on their waist when you hug. Put a hand on their thighs. 

This works to let them know you have a romantic interest you have intentions of exploring. Let me riddle you this: if they do not know your intentions, how then do you expect them to give you what you want?

6. Make Sexual Jokes

Jokes are a great way to let a person see that you consider them sexually appealing and would want to have sex with them. 

It is why funny guys are better around women. They don’t have to try too hard. They just talk and laugh about it, and at the end of the day, the woman knows what is expected of her. 

Make sexual jokes. Let these jokes be vivid, casting thoughts like a projector at the back of her mind. Trust me, she is going to love this. 

Read: 10 Signs She is a Cougar

7. Party Late

No one knows what happens at a party. Party late with your friend and initiate touch. In that wild environment, where things are most likely never going to be spoken of again, your friend is very likely going to have sex with you. 

8. Spend More Time in an Enclosed Spot

Yes, you have got to spend more time in an enclosed spot if you are going to have sex with your friend. 

I believe I don’t have to talk about it much. 

The friend zone is a no-relationship zone, not a no-sex zone. 

By Ubee

Ubong Johnson (Ubee) is a relationship expert and writer. He writes articles that cover everything from relationships and nutrition to lifestyle. His works have appeared in several literary magazines, including The Shallow Tales Review, Ngiga Review, and the Kalahari Review. He is the founder and editor of Fiction Niche.

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