Are you consumed with the thoughts of your ex constantly? Like you can’t do anything without picturing your ex with you. It feels like all your energy is burning out faster than ever. At times you could really feel the pain in your heart. Gradually, you begin to lose your mind. If care is not taken, you may hurt yourself in the long run. Before you start having the hunch to do something you would regret. These are awesome tips you can use to get over your ex faster.
First things first! Stop drowning in self-pity. Stop thinking that now that your ex is gone, your life is now over. See it as a turning point in your life. It’s all about perspective. That is to say; if you choose to see your break up as the end of the road, you will never be able to move on. On the contrary, if you choose to see it as an opportunity, you will appreciate it.
Moving on is actually much easier for people who have come to the total acceptance that it did end than those who do not. This is because the latter tend to grief longer over their ex. Mind you! If your ex sees that you are still not over the breakup, it will kill any iota of respect he or she has for you. It becomes an ego boost to your ex. Your ex is going to be thinking like this:
“Oh my goodness! I am so irresistible. Can’t believe I was still on your mind after we separated”.
This kind of thought will not even bring you two together. If this is what you want, I will tell you how you can get your ex back in my next article.
Now how does that sound to you?. Pleasant?. Off that microphone now!
1. Go on vacation
What’s the name of that place you have always wish to go to before now? If you can afford it, go there. By the time you go on this vacation, take time out to enjoy the place. This would distract you from your ex. Mingle with people around. You could even meet a potential partner here. Rather than just wallowing in self-pity on your bed at home.
2. Get Busy
This is one simple but effective way you can get over your ex unintentionally. As the saying goes: “an idle mind is the devil’s workshop.” Even if you don’t do chores on a typical day, you can decide to dedicate a day to clean the house thoroughly. Then the next day, tend to the garden. Doing these would erase any thought you have for your ex.
3. Develop yourself
The truth we don’t like to hear is that a major reason your ex probably left you was that he or she had met someone better. So it’s time for you to wake up from your slumber. Get a college degree. Ace that interview. Get that dream job or career. Make yourself a success.
There’s no better way to revenge an ex leaving you than breaking grounds. You will even be so amazed at how far you have gone when your success becomes headlines.
4. Depend on your support system
When going through a break up relying on your friends and family is quite helpful. As they get to understand what you are experiencing, they will not abandon you since they always got your back.
5. Trash the memorabilia
This may be difficult for you to do as some of the things your ex gave you in the course of the relationship might be things you really treasure. But the truth is, the more you decide to hold on to these things, the more your ex memories linger with you. This is why some people cannot move on despite splitting up. They still dream of their ex. Yeah, recently someone asked me, what if it is expensive jewelry? I replied: Pawn it!
6. Avoid going to places you are likely to run into your ex.
I know there are quirky situations in which this cannot work. For instance, you are both colleagues at work. Well, avoid any unnecessary interactions with them. Try getting whatever it is you need from other people rather than using that as an excuse to talk to an ex.
However, if you are not colleagues at work but you know your ex loves going to a particular gym or cinema. In the meantime, avoid going to such places so you can really mend your broken heart. This is because you might get there and see your ex in the arms of another lover—consequently giving you more heartbreaks.
7. Flee from sex with your ex/rebound sex.
Your ex might get drunk and text you out of the blue when you are still not yet over him/her. Most people think if they can make love again with their ex, it’s an opportunity for them to patch things up. Others think the next thing to do after a breakup is to be jumping from bed to bed. My dear reader, Flee from it!
Of course, you could easily do that and think no one would know. But the pain of regret that comes after that moment of fun is pathetic. You feel used and miserable. Do not even think of it.
8. Cry it out
Tears have been described as 1% of water and 99% of feelings. A lot of people go through this phase in their relationship after its death. You cannot bottle up your emotions of anger and resentment for long over your ex. When the time comes, you will burst into tears even at unexpected places. So just allow it. After a while, you will be done with all the heartaches you feel right now.
9. Regulate your social media handles
It will be best to set your Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, and so on in such a way that whenever you are holding your phone, you won’t be seeing feeds on what your ex is up to. This button is usually hard to push. I get it. But you need to do that to help you get over your ex.
Then after time has passed, you might decide to change the settings if you wish. But what are you doing with the newsfeed of an ex that does not want you anyway? (well, I am just wondering).
10. Start dating again
It is not reasonable to end a relationship today, and then tomorrow you are in another. Make sure you take more time to process your feelings and realize the mistakes you made previously. So you won’t be entering another relationship while you are still thinking of your ex. This would crash sooner than you started. It is when you are truly ready for a new relationship you should do so.
In a nutshell, how to get over an ex faster is easy. If you follow the tips, I have highlighted above. We have all gone through breakups. It is never the end of the world. I hope you find true love this time.
Rachael Ukpebor is an Editorial Assistant for Whatsdalatest. She graduated with honours from the University of Benin with a degree in Sociology and Anthropology. She covers beauty, relationship and lifestyle topics at WDS, everything from best skincare and makeup hacks, to relationships. Her favourite music is Lovin’ You by Minnie Riperton.