I have been there before. It feels like a bad chest ache. You try to get her out of your mind, but it feels like the more you try, the worse it gets. It feels that way because you do not know what to do. I can help you through it by showing you just how to forget about a girl. Every girl and that includes even that one you think you cannot do without.
1. She is Not so Special
I know your mind is going to revolt against this. You may say: “Wait, you do not know her. You do not know what she made me feel.”
The truth, however, is that I do not need to know her to tell you this for free: she is not special. If she was, she would have stayed.
Guys who think that a girl they are seeing is the most special woman in the world have a harder time forgetting about a woman.
This is the way things have always been. If you don’t see how special she is, you will be accepting of thoughts that drive you to forget her. You can forget her by replacing her, you know?
2. Embrace Thoughts That Push you to Replace Her
Usually, when I tell guys this, they refuse to even buy into the idea because it makes them feel disloyal.
“How do I even think about replacing her?” Some guy in his 20s once told me. He had been crying over and obsessively thinking about a girl who broke his heart. He had described her as the best thing he had ever had.
This description told me he was suffering from a bad case of what Robert Glover describes as Oneitis.
“But she does not see you as her world, does she?”
This question sparked a fire in his eyes. He looked up at me as though he did not believe the question I had just asked him. A moment passed, and he sighed and looked the other way.
He moved on less than three days earlier.
3. Embrace the Most Negative
Yes, the one who embraces the most negative scenario is going to move on faster than the one who does not.
You cannot forget her because you keep giving yourself hope. This is the very thing that makes you feel so sad, as though the world is going to fall on your head.
Remove all that hope, and at once, it is going to feel very easy to move on. To forget about her, tell yourself the truth that she is never coming back.
Tell yourself that you are always going to be that guy to her. She is not suddenly going to be very head over heels for you.
4. There is Someone Else
Now, imagine yourself being there, watching a guy make out with this woman you think is the best thing in the world.
How is it going to make you feel? Of course, you are going to feel burnt with a desire to walk away. You are going to feel humiliated. And right there, you are going to make the decision to never let her have that much of an influence over your mood.
The truth is, that is probably happening right now. She is probably making out with other dudes right now. And I don’t mean or two. I mean multiple dudes. So it is best to just forget about her.
5. Pay More Attention to Your Hobby
Yes, you have got to pay attention to your hobby now that you are trying to forget about her.
This is because the best way to remove a memory is to replace it.
Instead of thinking about her and all the things you could have become, it is best you turn your mind into thinking about something else.
Spend time with your hobbies. If you love to read, then read more. If you love to write, then write more. Just do what you love.
6. Be Around Your Friends More
When you are trying to forget about a girl, it may be tempting to give in to the desire to isolate yourself.
I will, however, strongly advise against it. Don’t stay too long on your own. Instead, be around people who love you. People you can trust.
This is the best way way to forget about a girl. Spend more time around your friends. You don’t have to talk to them about her. No. Talk to them about everyday stuff you all talk about. Never about her.
7. Don’t Talk About Her
Your mind will always be where your words are, and vice versa. If you don’t want to keep thinking about her, then it is time to stop talking about her. That is a trick I have come to learn; it will do you a world of good if you learn it, too.
Don’t talk about how much she hurt you; do not even talk about the good times you all spent together. She should be out of your mind and out of your words.
8. Remove All Memories
To forget about someone, you have got to erase every part of you that continues to think about that someone. It may be a picture or just a couple of old texts. But do remove everything.
Don’t even save the favorite shirt she gave you. You may even want to give it out.
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9. Replace Her
One of the best ways to forget a person is to replace them. Even though it works, it usually produces unstable feelings for both you and your rebound eventually.
So, use a rebound only when it is very necessary. If it is not, then you should let things be.
Your rebound should know exactly what is going on. You must not ensnare them into thinking they are in a romantic relationship with you.
10. Give it Time
You cannot rush the heart into forgetting, so give it some time. Give it as much time as your heart needs.
You can forget about any girl if you allow yourself to.