Having a guy obsessed with you can be one of the best things to happen to you. When men are obsessed with their girlfriends, they put extra effort into making their girls feel safe.
Driven by the masculine desire to provide for and protect, they will call more, reach out more, make out more time for their women. Do you want your man thinking about you most of the time? This is how you can make your boyfriend obsessed with you:
1. Look Good. Very Good
You have a favorite dress. And you most probably are obsessed with this dress.
It’s not difficult to guess why: you’re obsessed with your favorite dress because it looks great on you. Because on days when you put it on, compliments don’t stop hitting your ears like air on a breezy morning.
Do not think that your boyfriend is different from you in this. That, unlike you, he is unlikely to obsess over good-looking things. Trust me; he’s no different.
Like you, he is drawn to things that look great. To something that draws attention. Maybe more than you, even, considering that he is a man and is more visually stimulated than you are.
To have your boyfriend obsessing over you, look good.
On days when you look stunning, your boyfriend will most likely go to bed thinking about you. He will think about your curves, the way your hips swayed when you walked and will think about what your next date will be like.
He may even feel insecure because he knows that other men might have found you intriguing too. That they will come chasing after you.
This insecurity, alongside his interest in you, will make him obsessed with keeping you. He will compliment you more and will do anything to make you feel safe.
Try not to make him feel insecure on purpose, though. This might hurt him and further push him away, defeating the purpose of everything.
2. Make Him Believe You Have Options
This seems like bad advice, and it is. Nonetheless, it works. Have options, my dear. A man who knows you don’t have any options asides from him will feel on top of the world when relating with you.
Such a man cannot be obsessed with you. He will feel like he can get away with just anything. And he’s right. He can.
To make him obsessed, give him some competition. Make him believe you have men all around you. You can do this by dressing better, hanging out more, etc.
Competition makes men sit up. This is the nature of things. In the wild, men compete to get the attention of mates. During fertilization, the most viable sperm only fertilizes the egg.
A man who feels threatened, who knows you’ll have a great life even if he leaves, will be obsessed with you.
3. Make Him Miss You
Almost everyone obsesses about someday owning a Ferrari. This is because Ferraris are not common everywhere. Only a certain class of people can afford them, making them high in demand.
People obsess about things that are rare and pricey.
To make your boyfriend obsessed with you, your time and attention should become princely to him. This can only happen when you become scarce.
Even though he is your boyfriend, he ought to have you whenever he wants.
Yes, it is sometimes great to push back some of your boundaries for your lover. But still, this can other times end up with you being taken for granted.
Let’s say your boyfriend calls you and says he wants to meet you. If you’re unavailable at that moment, you can reschedule nicely. You don’t always have to run into his arms, neglecting yourself.
This will make him think about you, about what you must be doing, etc.
4. Listen to Him
Men love it when women listen to them. When a man finds that it is easy to talk to you, he will allow himself to be vulnerable around you. He will consider you his lover because it’s easy to open up to you.
When your boyfriend has something to say, whether important or not, put aside what you are doing and give him your genuine attention if possible.
Listening is an act of love, and men love it when their women are sincerely interested in what they say. If your mind is on other things, you could ask him to wait until you can do so.
A man who is vulnerable with you will be obsessed with you because he will fear losing you.
Read: 10 Signs a Guy is Interested in You
5. Give him What Other Women Can’t
People are afraid to lose what they can’t replace. If your man considers you easily replaceable, he will not be obsessed with you.
To make him obsessed with you, you have to make him see that you are different, that you are special. He is your man. You should know what he considers special, and you should become that person to him.
For most men, a special woman is one who is feminine and respectful, who understands their moods, who is not aggressive, etc. Respect your man’s decisions. Do not try to overrule them. Do not disrespect him. Love his family.
Surprise him with gifts. Buy him a new shirt. Replace his cologne. Give him money if you can. Make his special occasions and moments worthwhile.
6. Support Him
To make your man obsessed with you, do not stop supporting him. Support him with his projects, offering encouraging words.
You may not be directly involved in your boyfriend’s secular work. Regardless, your sympathetic understanding of his struggles can be of tremendous aid to him.
Provide him with invaluable emotional support by being a willing listener to his wins, disappointments, blunders, and fears. He will love you and be more obsessed with you for the understanding and interest you show.
7. Tell Him He’s “The Best.”
A man loves to feel like a man. He loves it when his woman appreciates his efforts. If your man is showing you affection and care, do not hesitate to compliment him for it.
You can say, for example, “Thanks for recommending this new hairstyle for me; it looks great!” “That T-shirt you bought is just perfect for me; you’re a star!” When you compliment him like this, you inspire him to do more.
Just so he can receive more compliments from you, he will keep doing more for you. He will spend his time thinking about the next gift he can give you, about the next location your date will be.
Read: 10 Ways to Tell if He is Genuine or a Player
Intimacy and sex is another way to have your boyfriend obsessed with you.
When we have sex, our bodies produce hormones that make us feel love and affection towards our partners. Do not withhold it from him and use it to manipulate him.
Though manipulation works, its effects don’t last long. Sooner or later, a manipulated person will get tired of being manipulated and revolt.
If you’re very good at your job in a company setting, you’ll become an asset, and your employer will even be afraid to lose you.
Same way, if you apply these tips mentioned in this article, you will become invaluable to your boyfriend and he will be obsessed with you and wouldn’t want to lose you.
What works in making your man obsessed with you are some of the same things that make any relationship work best in the long.
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