Statistics have shown that infidelity in relationships is the most common cause of a breakup. Infidelity continues to wreak havoc in many relationships today.
In 2018 alone, there were about 780,000 divorces conducted in the United States, according to Statista. Technology has also made cheating so easy, just like ordering fast food.
To save your marriage and stop hurting your spouse, you need to be determined to avoid anything that could lead to committing adultery. Here are 16 ways to avoid infidelity in your marriage
1. Avoid lying to your Partner
One lie can lead to 100 more lies. Because whenever you lie, you have to project more lies to support the same. But when you tell the truth all the time, you don’t have to remember anything.
Any distortion of truth that you’ve convinced yourself of is better for the relationship. Lies are signs of infidelity in your relationship.
2. Be honest with one another
When you get used to lying to your partner about anything, it makes it much easier to cheat. But when you are always honest, your mind is always far from cheating.
3. Avoid the use of dating apps
Dating apps and other online dating services can be addictive. If you’re in a relationship, you don’t need any of that, so why keep them anyway when you’re no longer single. Delete them. By doing so, you avoid any temptation that can lead to infidelity.
4. Try new things
The mind tends to drift away when you’re bored or get used to the same routine. This makes you want to try out new things.
Try out new things you’ve never done before, like taking things to a new level in bed with your spouse. It will be more rewarding than starting all over with someone new.
5. Understand your partner
Understanding your partner can help avoid infidelity in your relationship. Both of you guys used to have separate lives at one point before you guys met.
So both of you may likely have gone through a lot in life. Even while together, your partner may have all kinds of secret thoughts and feelings, and they probably don’t tell you, or possibly anyone.
Find out the things about your partner that no one else knows. Use that information to be on the inside, every day in terms of their experiences in the relationship. This knowledge makes you closer to your spouse and valuable in a way few others can replicate.
6. Stay intimate in other ways
Physical contact in a strong relationship involves more than just sex and should include things like stroking your partner’s hair, massaging, holding hands, and little touches here and there, even just as you pass by.
This is almost like wiring yourselves to each other’s biology, learning to seek out and respond to one another instead of looking elsewhere.
7. Don’t compete with one another
A relationship is not a competition. If you see your partner flirting with other people, don’t try to outdo them. Instead, tell them how you feel.
Make your stance clear. Your partner wouldn’t want to hurt you intentionally. Long-term relationships last when they are built on friendship, respect, realistic expectations, and shared interests.
8. Avoid drinking too much around people you are attracted to
Drinking too much is a slippery slope to a pool of regret. Avoid putting yourself in a situation where people have famously made big mistakes time and again.
Prevention is better than cure. Alcohol reduces self-consciousness. An intoxicated person will often do things that are entirely out of character.
Therefore, don’t get drunk and thereby remove the natural inhibitions that would prevent infidelity.
Many infidelities in relationships begin when alcoholic beverages are being consumed.
9. Take your partner with you to places
Bring your partner along if you’re going to a party or any situation that poses a slight threat to your relationship.
They’ll feel included and desired, which is good for your relationship, and other people will know you’re in a relationship, and they’ll back off. Also, you’re less likely to do anything stupid.
10. Remember what brought you guys in the first place
Always think of what sparked up the relationship when you guys first met, why you love your partner, and what they mean to you.
Also, think logically about whether hooking up with someone else for one night is worth the possibility of losing what could be years of happiness.
11. Learn to have self-control
Be firm with decisions. Let your yes mean yes, and your no means no. Avoiding infidelity in your relationship can be very difficult if you have no self-control.
However, it’s 100 percent possible if you work hard on it. Start with small ways of disciplining yourself, then work your way up, and you’ll be much better equipped to handle it. Never say “but” when rejecting someone’s advances
12. Let go of your exes
Delete the number of your exes who message you or who you used to message late at night. You’re allowed to be friends with your exes, but if they keep asking you to come out for a drink, delete and block them.
Don’t get too attached. Remember why you are no longer in the relationship. If things are glowing between you guys, you’d still be with them.
13. Don’t hide your relationship
Bring your partner up in conversation when they’re not there. When people see that, they will know that you’re committed to your spouse and get the sign that you’re not looking for temptation.
If you’re married, wearing your wedding ring can also help give people a heads up about your relationship status.
14. Figure out why you want to cheat
Feeling tempted to cheat in the first place could indicate something is wrong in your relationship.
Take a step back and figure out what’s missing, and don’t forget to communicate it to your partner. Work out a solution and fix what is missing together.
No matter how many excuses you can come up with, you’re the only one in control of your actions and decisions. Avoiding infidelity in your relationship is your primary responsibility.
15. Make plans for the future
When you get into a routine of making plans, including short and long-term plans with your partner, you’ll have more at stake and more to engage with when you’re faced with potential infidelity.
Always discuss these plans and follow through with them. Find ways to put them into action.
16. Never stop trying
To sum it up, keep trying. Never feel so confident that you are in a solid position. Temptations happen all the time. At work, when you’re with friends and in other places as well. Be determined. Work hard to avoid infidelity in your relationship.
Benefits of being faithful
Now, let’s mention some of the benefits of being faithful in your relationship.
1. You have peace of mind
If you ask anybody who has ever cheated how they benefited from the affair, they will tell you there are no benefits. They end up mostly being stressed and without peace of mind.
Being faithful gives you peace of mind because you don’t have anything to hide, to feel guilty about, and your focus is only on your partner and nobody else.
2. It incites your partner to be faithful
Whenever you are faithful, it also gives your partner a good reason to be as well. Your partner won’t think of cheating.
In being faithful to your partner, you’re also challenging them to be loyal to you and avoid infidelity in the relationship.
3. You protect yourself and your partner from sexually transmitted diseases
If you cheat outside your marriage, you risk getting an STD and infecting your spouse.
To avoid this, stay faithful to your partner and prevent any cause for infidelity. That way, both of you will be in good health.
4. You gain respect
If you are unfaithful to your spouse, there is definitely no way you can gain their respect. Even people outside who know about this will think cheaply of you. When you are faithful, you gain respect from your partner and the people around you.
5. An incomparable sex life
Being faithful to your partner is likely to improve the bond between you. However, if your partner knows that you are being unfaithful, this will affect your sex life.
You can’t even share the same room anymore. In addition, both of you will be very distant from each other. Is that what you want? I don’t think so.