A good blow job is sure to make him feel things he didn’t think possible. It will have him reaching to grab you, to grab the beddings, moaning, maybe even calling you names. (This is if he has a praise kink). But good blowjobs do not come so easy. There are a number of techniques involved. You just have to get them right.
Here are 14 blow job styles and tips to have a guy gasping for more.
But first, let us go to anatomy class for a second and explore the anatomy of the penis—the areas that feel great and the areas that feel very great.
Blow Job Styles: The Anatomy of the Penis
The penis can be divided into five areas; the ball area (the scrotum), the root of the penis, the shaft of the penis, the frenulum, and the head of the penis.
All these areas, when stimulated, give different sensations. What a man feels when his ball area is licked is quite different from what he feels when you lick the head of his penis.
This is a result of the nerve supply. The head of the penis has quite a rich supply, such that the littlest touches can have him feeling things that he cannot describe. (Related: How to Give Good Head – 10 Blow Job Tips)
The Don’ts of a Good Blow Job
We will get to the blowjob styles soon enough. But let’s, first of all, explore the don’ts of a good blow job:
1. No Pulling
Yes, for no reason should you yank hard at a man’s penis. You are not only going to hurt him; you are going to make sure he stays as far away from you as possible after the sex.
Pulling hurts men. More than you know. Especially when you pull at their balls, it feels something like having your balls kicked, and that is never pleasant.
2. No Biting
Do not bite a man’s penis for any reason at all. Except, of course, he asks you to. There are some men who love to be bitten slightly because the pain makes things feel better and more intense.
Biting hurts. I mean, it really hurts. And not only that: it breaks the skin along the penis on a micro-scale. You may not be able to see the micro-cracks in the skin. But they are there and often show up when penetration has just begun.
This is why many men report feeling quite sore when they get right into sex soon after receiving a blowjob. The blowjob had broken skin on a micro level. (Read: Why Are Men so Obsessed With Boobs)
3. Stroking When He isn’t Properly Lubricated
You may get carried away when you stroke him. Understood. But you owe it to your man to be very careful. You don’t want to stroke your man when he is not wet, as you risk injuring his penile shaft.
The injuries sustained in this manner are also often micro-injuries that show up minutes after the blow job as pain and tingling.
4. Stroking When Your Hands are Rough
Sometimes during a blow job, your hands may come in contact with dust and sand, which is sure to injure him.
So be careful that you do not stroke him if you feel any grit. A rule of thumb: do not stroke when you feel any friction. Most of the time, it will end with him being hurt.
5. Do not Stoke Too fast. It Starts to Feel Hurt
This is going to come off as funny to a lot of people, as the imagery is hilarious, like a speedster jerking one-off. But it is a real thing, and it happens. Some women stroke too fast, and the pain that comes from that is hellish to the guy.
Guys often don’t talk about these things. But I am right now. If you want to have him gasping for breath, don’t stroke him too fast.
6. Don’t Squeeze His Balls
No, it is not sweet: no, it does not make him feel super amazing. It just hurts. Seriously. It hurts. The balls are a sensitive area on a man’s body. Even worse, they are delicate and should be off any rough action. (Read: 10 Fun Things to Try in the Bedroom and Beyond)
The Best Blow Job Styles to Have Him Gasping for Breath
This is where the anatomy of the penis and the don’ts of giving a blow job come in handy.
1. Lick at his Balls
This is such a great idea, especially when the blow job is just starting. Consider it some kind of tease. Licking your man’s balls will have him longing for the actual blowjob.
If you are sure you can be gentle enough, you may go on to caress his balls very softly. And by softly, I mean very softly. The slightest touch is going to hurt him.
Your licking pattern can either be straight or circular.
I suggest you lick around his balls in a circular pattern. Focus on areas that make him grunt or groan. Just be careful to differentiate grunts from pain from those that are from pleasure.
2. Lick the Shaft of his Penis
The shaft of a man’s penis begins just after the root of his penis. Still remember the anatomy of the penis? Good.
Let your tongue glide along the shaft of his penis. Start in a linear fashion and then progress in a more circular manner.
You should not be using your hands at this point—just your tongue.
No teeth, please. Do not use your teeth. (Read: 10 Ways To Make Sex More Fun, Intense, And Intimate)
3. Lick the Frenulum and Then the Head of his Penis
As you may have noticed by now, there is a progression. The blowjob seems to be moving from the lower areas of the penis to the head of the penis.
This is because the sensations increase in intensity the closer you get to the head of a man’s penis.
Why? Nervous supply. Remember the anatomy of the penis.
Lick the frenulum. It is more like curling your tongue around it. At this point, if you feel the need to, you can as well hold at the shaft of his penis.
But do not begin stroking him just yet.
Now, the teasing is over…
Yes, this is where you get to make him gasp and make those sounds that so easily turn you on. We will start with the following:
4. Deep Throat Him
Many women do not understand why it is needful to deepthroat a man. The answer is simple: there is a lot of lubrication in the throat.
When you deepthroat him, your gag reflex (I promise, this post is not a science class) triggers your body to produce a lot of salivae, which will, in turn, lubricate his penis.
It is tempting to go too deep during a deepthroat. But do not do that if you don’t have quite the experience performing deepthroats. If you are inexperienced, a reflex mechanism (reflex mechanisms are bodily responses beyond our control) can make you clamp your mouth shut, hence, hurting him.
Try to breathe from your nose when you deepthroat.
Also, do not be scared to pull away when you feel your throat hurting. It doesn’t make you suck at giving a blowjob or anything.
5. The One hand Stroke
The one-hand stroke is a perfect stroke to have him feeling on to up the world. I promise you. This technique drives men crazy. To perform a one-hand stroke while giving your man a blow job, grab the shaft of his penis in a loose-to-firm grip.
This means the grip should not be too tight or too loose. If it is too loose, it may not offer him all the sensations he wants. And if it is too tight, it might hurt him, especially if your hands are dusty.
Stroke along the length of his penis repeatedly. Up. Down. Up. Down. Up. Down.
He should be moaning heavily now.
Make things more sensual. Look up at him and smile. I believe eye contact in itself is an amazing technique. It can make everything spiced up and lovely. (Read: How to Get Multiple Orgasms with Your Partner)
6. The Double Hand Stroke
The double hand stroke is also a great technique you can adopt into your blow job routine. It is like the regular hand stroke. The only difference, however, is that it seems a bit intense.
There is no space for the man to savor your stroke. It is just stroke after stroke until he cannot even tell what he feels anymore.
The double-hand stroke on a blow job, though, can be very tempting. So you have got to be careful.
7. Edging
Edging blow job style is a technique that involves having a man near orgasm only to withdraw the source of the pleasure so that he reverts to seeking an orgasm.
It is a great technique if you want the sex to last longer.
Read: How to Really Eat a Girl Out – An Oral Sex Hack
8. Be Yourself
Sometimes, being yourself and doing what you want to do is the best technique for a blowjob.
Bottom Line: Blowjobs can be confusing. But when you understand how men feel and how their bodies work, blowjobs become easier.
