How to know if a guy is a player is easy. There are various signs to watch out for. Follow these steps below.
1. Always compliments your body parts
When a guy likes to praise or compliment your figure, backside, front side, etc. You need to watch out. 90% of guys who compliments parts of girls’ bodies are definitely players. They compliment these parts of your body because it is what they fantasize in their head. That’s their goal in dating you, simply to have a taste of you. Such a guy is a player. Meanwhile, a sincere guy will compliment your beauty, your character and personalities. Not parts of your body. You’re not a photo gallery.
2. Doesn’t take personal interest in you
A guy who is a player doesn’t have the time to dig deep. He stops on at the surface. His goal is to get you fast into his bed. Furthermore, he doesn’t have patience to listen carefully to what you have to say. Find out what you are thinking. What your problems are. Does not manifest fellow feelings. In contrast to all these, he only thinks more about himself. What he wants is more important to him. Watch out for these signs. Also, see if he enjoys talking so much about himself.
3. He is impatient
A player is always impatient. He moves or acts in great haste. Tell him to take it slowly, he will be on edge. He will find all means to convince you to follow his way. Watch out for this; A guy who is a player is always super persuasive and very manipulative, especially when it comes to getting you to his thing. They only have one goal in mind. To get what they want. What you want or think is not so important. Furthermore, they have a “me first” attitude in relationships. Remember, relationships should be about sharing and taking each other into consideration in all things.
4. Nothing goes for nothing attitude
Relationship work when both partners are willing to support each without expecting something in return. A guy who is a player always wants something back for anything he did for you. He’s ready to please you in so many ways, but only for a condition. To get what he wants. They can never be selfless. Watch out if he is very selfish. If he gives without obligations.
5. Always secretive
This is very visible right from the onset. A guy who is a player is professional when it comes to keeping secrets. They definitely have a lot of things to hide. Here are few things they wouldn’t want you to see or know about
- About their family
- Text messages from their phone
- Likes to make calls in secret
- Not truthful about his past
- Making their whereabouts a secret
6. His body Language
Another way to identify a player is his body language. You will sense something is out of place. It’s very difficult to spot if you have not dated a player before. Look directly into his eyes. See if he looks back at you in kind. A player acts suspiciously. See if he always check his watch, phone, looks around the surrounding from time to time when you guys are in public places. Does he avoid going to public places or feel uncomfortable in public places? Watch him intensely when you find yourselves in these circumstances.
Also, does he like to look at other women when you guys are together? When a beautiful girl passes by, he tries to look behind. It is very difficult for a player to resist the urge even if he is with a potential date. There is a saying; a player will always be a player.
7. You don’t know your stand with him
Let’s say you have agreed to date him, and you guys have dated for a while. Yet, you do not know your stand with him. He never talks about future plans. He doesn’t show strong commitment. Then know this girl. He is a player. What he is after is to use you and run away. Moreover, a genuine guy would want to discuss with you, future plans. He will show commitment. Furthermore, you will feel very safe with him. Have a relaxed mind, instead of guessing what tomorrow holds for you guys. Also, he doesn’t make any effort to make you feel safe in the relationship.
8. He rarely text or calls
He is a player if he hardly or text. Remember when he was still trying to convince you to date him. How he calls all the time and texts regularly. After you guys have started dating. Everything will drastically go down to a minimum. Furthermore, a player will only call when he wants something very important. Maybe when he wants to see you, or when he wants something badly.
9. His behavior changes drastically
If he is a player, he will change drastically as times goes on. There will be changes to when you guys first started dating and after you have dated for a while.
Examples of Before and After behaviours
- Calls you every 6 hours. Calls you every 3 days
- Texts you every day. Text you every 2 weeks
- Goes out with you once every week. Goes out with you once every month
- He watches movies with you every night. Watch movies with you once a week.
- He cooks together with you. He hardly comes to the kitchen
- Buys you gifts every month. Buys you gift only on special occasions
- Visits you every day. Visits you once once in 3 days
Most importantly, what you should watch out for is this; The changes in him. How he was before and how he is now. Further, see if there are big changes between before and now. If he is a player, the difference will show.
10. He flirts with other women
Though flirtation doesn’t always mean that he wants to sleep with other women. But if he does it all the time. Then he is definitely a player. In contrast, a genuine guy would want to avoid flirting with other women, especially when you are there. He will avoid making you feel jealous. Instead, he should be making an effort to show other people that he is with you. Not making people have the feeling that you are just a friend. So watch out for this sign.
A player is always a player. If you pay real attention, you will see him exhibiting some of these signs. Trust me, you will know if he is genuine by the way he behaves. Genuineness is written all over a sincere and honest guy. However, you will always have doubts if you are dating a player. Although some guys have a master degree in faking it, they can’t fake it for long.
Check out our other article on; How To Know If A Guy Is Genuine Or Just A Player.