For many men, the very thought of opening a conversation with women, especially with a woman they do not know, causes anxiety. This article decodes conversation starters for men that can help you engage someone in conversation.
When starting a conversation, the first impression you give your listener or reader can pull them close or push them away from you. They listen to or read the first few lines and respond in either of two ways: they look at you in admiration, opening up to you, or they look at your text and scoff.
What is it going to be for you when you finally decide it’s time to approach or text that woman who you admire finally? Here are a number of conversation starters for men that really work wonders:
1. Hi, I am_ Your name_ Can We Talk?
This might be seen as a traditional and maybe even archaic way to begin a conversation with a woman over text, but it works wonders still. I’ll tell you why.
Every day, a beautiful woman is approached by a lot of guys. Some of them are creeps and have no courtesy.
These creepy guys might be catcallers who just stand by the edge of the street and call to women. They might be ones who don’t mind touching any woman or even attempting to pull her close.
Being exposed to men like these ones on a daily basis has over time made women do adapt in ways that may include meanness, snobbishness, etc.
If you approach a woman in a way that triggers her or attempts to start a conversation in one of those rude and uncouth manners, she will shut you out and be very mean to you. You should be a gentleman.
Let’s imagine that she is seated somewhere far away. You should walk to her and, wearing a smile, say: “Hi, I am — can we talk?”
This works because, first, it makes her feel safe. She knows your name now and knows that you have little or no intentions to creep her out.
Second, it makes her see you as responsible. You have not only told her your name. You have also told her what you want—to talk.
She knows you are going to be fine with anything she says, so she will not be compelled to say what she does not mean.
2. “It is a Clear Sky today.”
It is important to begin conversations with mutual interests or mutual sights.
If you’re on a bus, for example, and a passenger sees a beautiful bird fly past, he might choose to ask you if you saw it too.
I’m guessing you’ll be willing to say yes. This is because people are willing to talk about what they both find interesting or what they find beautiful.
The sky is beautiful to almost everyone; nothing beats the sight of fluffy white clouds roaming in a blue sky.
When you begin a conversation this way with a woman, she will find it easy to talk to you. She might turn to you, smile, and say: “Yes, it’s a clear sky.”
You can then point at a particular cloud and say, “That one looks like a kitten.”
3. Can I Pet Your Dog?
Women can be very attached to their pets. A woman will appreciate anyone who appreciates her pet. Of course, we love people who love the things we love, so it’s no surprise.
If you’re on a bus, for example, and there’s a woman in here holding a dog, and you do really want to talk to her, then a great way to begin the conversation is to ask if you can hold her dog.
She most likely is going to smile at you. “Yes,” She would move the dog towards you.
Now, you can stroke the dog, wearing a smile. Talk some more about the pet. Say something along the lines of: “Its skin feels so good to touch.” Ask her the pet’s name.
Now, you can begin telling her a story about a pet you once owned. You can tell her the pet’s name and discuss how you were really attached to it.
Watch the woman smile. A man who loves pets, she would think—such a nice man.
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4. Can I See Your Book?
Not everyone likes pets. Let’s imagine that the woman you admire and want to speak with is one of these and prefers books. One of the ways to get her attention is to ask her what book she is reading.
Readers are pretty attached to their books a lot of the time and may become attached to people who love these books too.
Ask to hold her book. Turn it around, and view the author’s name.
If it’s a book you’ve read, you can start a conversation about the protagonist in the book, your favorite scene, or a character’s death that hurt you the most.
Like movie freaks, book lovers love to talk about their favorite books. If you haven’t read the book before, you can ask her if she wants to talk about it. I am guessing she would want to.
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5. Do You Need Help With That?
Conversation starters like this work wonder for men because offering to help a woman is a great way to begin a conversation with them.
Be careful, though, that you’re not only trying to take advantage of whatever situation there are in as that’s going to be somewhat abusive.
Let’s imagine that you are in a gym with a good-looking woman trying to lift some barbells. Imagine that she looks around to see if anyone will offer to help raise it for her or remove some of the weight.
What do you do? Well, you walk over to her and ask if you can help. “You need help removing those weights?” She’ll smile and say yes.
Women like men who are willing to offer help. It is in the masculine core of a man to want to help anyone. So, when you offer to help a woman, you are being masculine.
The feminine, more often than it can, cannot resist masculinity.
When you have taken off the weights, you can begin to tell her a story of when you only lifted low weights, and how you now lift heavier ones.
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6. That’s One Beautiful Dress
People love being complimented. We only compliment things that we love and appreciate. So, when you use compliments as a conversation starter when conversing with a woman, she knows that you appreciate whatever it is you compliment about her.
To women, humor is like a trap. It pulls them in, and they many times can’t resist it. So, clothe your compliments in humor.
You can say, “That is one beautiful dress, I thought for a second you were going to fly into the sky.” She knows you’re only teasing, so she’ll loosen up and laugh about it. Begin talking to her now.
7. Ask Why She Looks, Moody
Everyone has a bad day once in a while. When people have bad days or feel awful, all it takes to make them open up to you is a question.
“Why do you look this way? Are you okay?”
Say it nicely, in a way that makes them believe you really want to listen. Listening is helping, and good listeners make very good partners. Almost every woman knows this.
A great way to start a conversation with a woman that really works is by asking why she looks a certain way. Why does she seem sad or unhappy?
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8. Hi, I Need Directions. Where can I see a woman as beautiful as you?
This is a great conversation starter for guys because many women find humor very attractive. So, when you approach them, you should know that humor is very important. Make her laugh, and she’ll give you listening ears.
Many men don’t understand humor and believe in scripted jokes. You should not be one of them. Scripted jokes, when repeated over and over, may even become annoying.
This is exactly what you’ll be if you tell a woman a joke she’s heard before. Annoying.
A good way to manipulate humor is to say the most outrageous things and hide compliments underneath them.
Asking a woman to give you directions to another beautiful woman is very outrageous. But it does two things: first, it lets her know that you think she’s beautiful, and it makes her know you want to talk.
A lot of women will laugh and ask what you want. Tell her that you want to talk.
9. Hi, Do you Like My New Hair?
The fact that she does not know you will make this even funnier. If you watch a lot of YouTube pranks, you’ll find YouTubers pulling off stunts like this.
They walk up to random women and ask if these women like something about them. When you do this, you’re pulling a stunt that works in two ways.
First, it makes the woman laugh. And it also confuses her in a good way. Confused people ask questions. She’ll want to know what you’re up to, why you walked up to her and not anyone there.
10. Hi, Please don’t Snub. I heard beautiful women snub guys like me
Viola. You just made her laugh. When pulling off a conversation starter like this, be sure that your body language emits confidence, or she will take your sentence literally.
Say one thing, an obvious and funny lie, whilst acting in a way that is confident and manly.
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